Life can feel like a precarious balancing act where sometimes you feel as if you’ve got this, and other times, not so much. It’s no wonder that you’re feeling overwhelmed with life. With COVID-19 throwing a wrench in our already busy lives, many of us are balancing working from home with homeschooling kids, tighter finances, and more demands than ever. What felt like a crazy-busy life in early 2020 feels like a cakewalk compared to what things are like now.
You don’t have to drown in the crazy busy.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed as a mom, employee, wife, and in any of the other hats you wear, here’s how you can take action to live a life that brings you joy.
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries
Let’s start with the hardest step: setting boundaries. Knowing your limits is okay. Saying “no” is okay. Not taking action every time you feel the need to help is okay. As women, we feel the need to fix things so that everyone around us is happy, and we’re filling everyone else’s cup but our own.
Be honest with yourself about your limitations—write them down if you have to. Then prepare yourself to say “no” to all the extras that are cluttering your sense of well-being. Stop working when work hours are over—work can wait until the morning. Be honest with yourself, the world won’t blow up if you don’t get everything done. Decline invitations from friends and family if you need a few hours to yourself over the weekend. If you have a partner, let them know that you need to set these boundaries so they can help hold you accountable.
And stop making excuses when you set these boundaries. “No,” is a complete sentence and requires no further explanation. Trust me when I say it’ll become easier to say each time.
Ditch the Perfectionism
You know what many of us successful women have in common? We’re perfectionists, and it’s costing us so much. You probably feel as if things won’t be done right at work and home if you’re not the one to do everything. When you do loosen your grip on perfectionism, you probably have the hardest time giving up that control, and worse, you probably go back and “fix” everything after you let somebody else do it.
Done is better than perfect. Life goes on when mistakes are made (it’s true!). Remind yourself that perfectionism is pushing you further into a state of being overwhelmed, and it’s not worth the cost. Learn to delegate and to be fine with other people helping you. This is going to be difficult, so take baby steps and continue to practice asking for and receiving help.
Do Things That Give You Joy
If you’re constantly filling others’ cups, you’re going to feel pretty dried up when it comes to fulfilling your own needs. But when you set boundaries and let go of demanding perfection, you have more time to do things you actually enjoy doing. It doesn’t matter if you read a book, take an online class, or do something as simple as an interruption-free family dinner. When you take time for yourself to do the things that you actually love doing, you’re going to fill your well and be better equipped to handle the curveballs that life throws at you.
Listen to Your Body—it Never Lies
When you experience pain, fatigue, or the sense that something doesn’t feel right, it’s your body’s way of telling you that you need to make a change…preferably before something major happens. Living in survival mode can only go on for so long before that constant state of action starts affecting your body, too.
You might feel pains that you can’t explain, get headaches more often, or feel so exhausted you can barely keep your head upright. Sound familiar? Now is the time to be mindful about how you treat your mind a body. Try taking a daily walk, meditating, journaling, or Zooming a friend. Be in charge of the meaningful moments that balance all the go-go-go with moments.
Repeat After Me: Work-Life Balance is BS
Work-life balance is one of those buzzwords that, when it comes down to it, isn’t possible…or at least in the way you might perceive it. The perception that a lot of us have is that work-life balance is an equitable arrangement between your personal life and your professional life. Shift your focus from a 50/50 split. This is more about you being in charge of your life rather than your life being in charge of you.
While you are a busy woman, you don’t have to be overwhelmed. Learn to be more intentional about the things that you do in your life, so that you can truly experience the joy that you deserve.
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