finding joy in the holidays - crazy busy women

The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, and it truly is a magical time, but so often, we get caught up in all the busy-ness that enjoyment is barely on the radar.

This year, I want you to make joy a priority!

Instead of focusing on perfection and all the to-dos on your list, focus on creating memories. Although the holiday season is typically a much busier time of year for all of us, you absolutely can make the decision to slow down and focus on the things that matter most to you.

Here’s how to get started!

Start with Joy

Kick off the holiday season by focusing on the things that bring you happiness. Take a few minutes to write down everything that you love about this time of year, no matter how small it might seem.

Decorating, baking, relaxing, family, friendship, lights, egg nog, Hallmark movies, the smell of the Christmas tree… What are all the things that make this time of year so much more magical, so different than the rest of the year? Can you get to 25? Or even 50%

Once you’ve finished making your list, I want you to prioritize at least five of those things. Make time in your schedule for them, and honor that commitment. Turn off your phone, and put away everything else so you can truly focus on these joyful things.

Reboot Expectations

So many of us have expectations that can weigh us down during this time of year. Whether these are expectations that you’ve placed on yourself or that have been put on you, it’s time to reboot those expectations.

Every year, social media posts become all about showing that perfect tree, the perfect family posed around the hearth, and the perfect meal. This can place so many unreasonable expectations on all of us, so remind yourself that this vision of perfection is a split-second snapshot of perfection.

Keep in mind that there is no such thing as a perfect holiday season, no matter what social media posts would lead you to believe. People will remember the fun, the joy, and the memories more than they’ll remember the photo you took!

Take Care of Yourself

Taking care of yourself and your needs should be a top priority during the holidays. Work inevitably becomes busier as the end of the year comes, and your personal life is no different.

When you’re too exhausted, too overwhelmed, and too everything, you have little energy left to really enjoy this time of year. There are so many things around you that you can’t control, but you can control the way you care for yourself.

Make time for self-care, whether it’s a few minutes every day, an hour or two over the weekend, or whenever else you can make time for it. This time of year takes so much energy, and you need to replenish that energy wherever you possibly can.

Ask for Help

As crazy busy women, we know we can do it all, and we can do it exactly how we want to be done. But do we need to do that?


It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, and you would be surprised at how many people would love to help you. Let go of your ideas of perfection, and focus on the enjoyment you’ll have not only because you have more free time, but also because you can immerse yourself in the happiness and memories that are taking shape.

Final Thoughts

When you focus on the joy of the season over perfection and doing it all, you’re going to be far more likely to meet this season with excitement rather than dread. Focus less on perfection and more on self-care, memories, and the legacy you’ll be leaving behind.